More often than not I hear statements like: “he has to make me feel safe”, “my happiness depends on him/her” or “I can’t live without he/she”.
If you just passed your sight over those lines and don’t remember having said anything like that--- Well, congratulations! I really hope you never think or say anything near those.
We constantly have to face situations where our individuality is faced, in some way, against a friend, a partner, a lover, a family or one of the big set of different social structures that, without a doubt, we need to live and reach realization. And that’s basically ok. What I see as a big mistake is to have or happiness, security, comfort or realization based on someone else’s actions and commitments.
The first and most important goal in our life must be our own happiness. Yes, you can accuse me of being totally and absolutely selfish or even egocentric; nevertheless, I say this thinking above anything else in the common wellbeing. Some of you must be think that I’m crazy, some other must be questioning my words, and I’ll try to explain it simple. I’m talking about reaching happiness from the inside to the outside. Some sort of endogenous happiness.
What does that mean? Easy. If you’re centered, peaceful and in agreement with what you are, then you can offer opinions that will be centered, peaceful and in accordance to your beliefs. If you love yourself, you can love others because you know what and how is it, you know how to love. Jesus Christ said: Love others as you love yourself. Te implication of these words is that you must love yourself above anything else. When you do that, you’ll be able to love others in that same way, not before.
So, speaking in terms of a relationship, we can’t hope to be with someone that makes us happy.We should want to be with someone because we desire to share our own happiness with that person. We shall love and be loved, not depend or let others depend on us.
If we look at it from a systemic approach – as if we were a system – we feel good when each and every single part of us is in good shape. So if every one of us is fine, the people around us will tend to be fine and that will allow the family to be fine, thus the social structure at the next level will be fine and so on.
This premise can be applied to almost anything, let’s not make it totally general. In any case, the matter here is that we have to posses something if we want to be able to give it away. If you posses love, you can give love, if you have peace, you can give it. Just focus your efforts to make yourself happy and automatically you will be able to give happiness to those around you.
When you’re happy, you irradiate happiness… You’re a good vibrations torch. If someone sees you, If someone passes near you, If someone touches you, if someone hugs you, they will realize it and, as it were and extremely contagious virus, they will start to feel better. That’s the way happiness and everything born from it works. When I child smiles, when a baby laughs with that genuine innocence and happiness that only they have--- Who doesn’t, at least, get a smile painted in their lips?
Words of wisdom:
Happiness is highly contagious, be careful not to get a vaccine against it.
Jesus Alejandro Sanchez
When you’re happy, you irradiate happiness… You’re a good vibrations torch. If someone sees you, If someone passes near you, If someone touches you, if someone hugs you, they will realize it and, as it were and extremely contagious virus, they will start to feel better. That’s the way happiness and everything born from it works. When I child smiles, when a baby laughs with that genuine innocence and happiness that only they have--- Who doesn’t, at least, get a smile painted in their lips?
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